I've noticed lately in life, that happiness is one of the biggest enigmas ever. It's a broad and powerful statement, but it's true. We spend our entire lives fighting for happiness. In that process, we make permanent decisions. What we will study, who we will be with forever, whether or not we have kids, what our career will be, where we will make our home, etc and etc.
I think happiness can be achieved. It's about very different things than we think though. It's not about money, it's about doing what you love. It's not about who you're with, but rather total self acceptance in that who you are is okay, and sharing your self acceptance with the world. It's about accepting that life is what it is, and even though there are a lot of things wrong with the world, saying okay and moving on. Let me clarify - I'm not saying, say world hunger is okay and move on and let people starve to death. Larger third party like issues are definitely something that we can all pitch in and help out with. I mean accept imperfections that are minor, and that you can't help - like you don't like your mother in law's closet. Just deal with it and move on. And buy her a new wardrobe for Christmas ;)
I don't think that we know how to handle happiness. It's a rare moment when the world is at an equilibrium that we can accept and consider happiness. It's one thing to recognize that it exists. But when it does exist and we see that, I think we go into shock and denial. Shock that things may actually be okay and that we can go on for a while without problems. Denial that that is really the truth that the storm has passed.
I think the denial that comes with happiness can turn into a series of creating problems. We start to nit pick and find things that are wrong, because we are so used to things never being okay. Sure, all of the problems that did exist are gone, but what do we do when they're gone? Create more problems as a means of survival, because we retreat to what we know. And let's be honest, the problems we create are incredibly stupid. They aren't real problems, nor do they require real attention and solutions.
Let's be honest. Life is rough. There is no way to deny that the world is a messed up place full of injustice and problems not only in our own lives but in our country and our world as a whole. But happiness exists for a reason as a reward for getting through the stuff in life that just sucks. But there's gotta be a point in life where you just accept it, and say okay, and move on with the world. Problems will exist soon enough that they don't need to be created.
Trial and error is life. Challenges and obstacles are apart of the rule book that is life. Enjoy the happiness - it's not gonna last forever. But treat yourself to being strong and making it through. Perseverance is rewarded by happiness - don't take it away from yourself.
