Lately, I've been considering the concepts of long distance relationships. They have quite the stigma attached to them that they are all things horrible. So I began thinking.
In a way, I agree that they can be quite difficult. On one hand, there is this new found distance you don't know what to do with. The person you spend every day with is now no where close to you. The physical proximity of the relationship is left out. Communication can be sporadic, depending on the distance. But the worst part is the thoughts that you're left alone with. The thought that after the extended period of time apart is over that what you thought you had could be changed. The thought that this time apart could end in two people calling it quits, because what you thought you had, you don't.
Yet this thing remains in between. Trust. Both near and far, silent and loud. Trust.
And with that, I start to wonder if long distance relationships are a good thing. Sure, it's a new adjustment knowing your person isn't there to hold your hand. But then what you learned is anything physical is not the center of the relationship. What you learn from being alone is who you are apart from that person.
What you learn is what you really want. Not having something can just make you want it more, or whether you even wanted it in the first place. Not having something can make you realize that it's the thing you've wanted all along.
It's a scary thing to be apart. It's also a scary thing to learn what you've always wanted. But then again, being scared means you'll take a leap. The leap is always worth it. For a smile, for a new opportunity, for happiness.
"Relationships remind me I'm not afraid of heights or falling. I'm scared to death of everything that's going to happen in between." - Rudy Francisco
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