This blog is to every lover who has ever experienced heartbreak, has ever lost someone they love, and knows what it means to be lost and alone in the world after a breakup.
To the Teds and Robins on their gut wrenching breaks. To the Lilys and Marshalls when Lily is in Rome. To the Barneys who find and lose their Robins.
To anyone who has ever love and lost.
You are not alone.
After recently experiencing breakup #647,129, I realized that the concept of breakups is something worth considering. Don't get me wrong, I'm basically a pro. How to do it, how not to do it, how to survive it, you name it, I got it. But after falling into the same rut, it got me thinking.
Why?
It's pretty simple. After every break up, a few things happen. You fall into a miserable depression, sleep a ton, cry yourself to sleep, cry about sleeping alone, eat all your feelings, watch your favorite movie that induces wallowing, drink yourself into a stupor, look for someone to hit on you, send way too many drunk texts to said ex, creep infinitely on social media, speculate on why it really happened, become enraged about what just happened to you, make some other stupid decisions, and probably some crying in there.
But why?
It's pretty simple. You deserve someone who will give you the world. Anything less, and they aren't worth you. Because you are worth the world. You are worth good morning texts, food deliveries, smiles, love, cuddles, free drinks, home cooked meals, surprises, and anything else to the moon and back.
And what a breakup means is that someone isn't willing to give you the world. That's what you deserve.
You can be sad about the disruption in your life. You can be angry for how you've been hurt and tossed to the curb.
But someone who won't give you the world isn't worth your tears. And to be honest, they're not worth the anger. You can be angry that they don't see what you want them to see in you, and you can be sad that they don't see that too.
But at the end of the day, it's not worth your effort. Because if they can't see how great you are, then that means they won't give you the world.
And you deserve someone that gives you the world.
Go ahead. Have a day or two of aimlessly creeping on their social media for cues about their lives. Eat your feelings. Have a night or two to cry. Make a stupid decision or two.
But at the end of the day, smile. Pick yourself up. Put on a nice outfit and go dancing. Do your hair and make up. Let a stranger hit on you.
But through it all, smile.
Because the best is yet to come. And you didn't lose the love of your life. You merely crossed out another name of people that don't deserve you because they won't give you the world.
Pick yourself up. Turn off the sad movies. Put away the ice cream and the alcohol. Put on your favorite outfit, do your hair and make up. Get out of bed. Go out and enjoy your night.
Smile.
Sleeping alone will get easier. The memories will fade. The pain will go away. Your heart will soften. And eventually, you will just let go.
Because the best is yet to come.
Your Ted will come back with your blue french horn. Your Lily will return from Rome. Your Barney will find a new Robin.
Give it time.
You're one step closer to finding someone who will recognize just what you are worth and give you everything that you deserve.
You're one step closer to finding someone who will give you the world.
"I guess I could be pretty pissed off about what happened to me. But it's hard to stay mad when there's so much beauty in the world. Sometimes, I feel like I'm seeing it all at once, and it's too much, my heart fills up like a balloon that's about to burst. And then I remember to relax, and stop trying to hold onto it, and then it flows through me like rain and I can't feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life. You have no idea what I'm talking about, I"m sure. But don't worry. You will someday."
To the Teds and Robins on their gut wrenching breaks. To the Lilys and Marshalls when Lily is in Rome. To the Barneys who find and lose their Robins.
To anyone who has ever love and lost.
You are not alone.
After recently experiencing breakup #647,129, I realized that the concept of breakups is something worth considering. Don't get me wrong, I'm basically a pro. How to do it, how not to do it, how to survive it, you name it, I got it. But after falling into the same rut, it got me thinking.
Why?
It's pretty simple. After every break up, a few things happen. You fall into a miserable depression, sleep a ton, cry yourself to sleep, cry about sleeping alone, eat all your feelings, watch your favorite movie that induces wallowing, drink yourself into a stupor, look for someone to hit on you, send way too many drunk texts to said ex, creep infinitely on social media, speculate on why it really happened, become enraged about what just happened to you, make some other stupid decisions, and probably some crying in there.
But why?
It's pretty simple. You deserve someone who will give you the world. Anything less, and they aren't worth you. Because you are worth the world. You are worth good morning texts, food deliveries, smiles, love, cuddles, free drinks, home cooked meals, surprises, and anything else to the moon and back.
And what a breakup means is that someone isn't willing to give you the world. That's what you deserve.
You can be sad about the disruption in your life. You can be angry for how you've been hurt and tossed to the curb.
But someone who won't give you the world isn't worth your tears. And to be honest, they're not worth the anger. You can be angry that they don't see what you want them to see in you, and you can be sad that they don't see that too.
But at the end of the day, it's not worth your effort. Because if they can't see how great you are, then that means they won't give you the world.
And you deserve someone that gives you the world.
Go ahead. Have a day or two of aimlessly creeping on their social media for cues about their lives. Eat your feelings. Have a night or two to cry. Make a stupid decision or two.
But at the end of the day, smile. Pick yourself up. Put on a nice outfit and go dancing. Do your hair and make up. Let a stranger hit on you.
But through it all, smile.
Because the best is yet to come. And you didn't lose the love of your life. You merely crossed out another name of people that don't deserve you because they won't give you the world.
Pick yourself up. Turn off the sad movies. Put away the ice cream and the alcohol. Put on your favorite outfit, do your hair and make up. Get out of bed. Go out and enjoy your night.
Smile.
Sleeping alone will get easier. The memories will fade. The pain will go away. Your heart will soften. And eventually, you will just let go.
Because the best is yet to come.
Your Ted will come back with your blue french horn. Your Lily will return from Rome. Your Barney will find a new Robin.
Give it time.
You're one step closer to finding someone who will recognize just what you are worth and give you everything that you deserve.
You're one step closer to finding someone who will give you the world.
"I guess I could be pretty pissed off about what happened to me. But it's hard to stay mad when there's so much beauty in the world. Sometimes, I feel like I'm seeing it all at once, and it's too much, my heart fills up like a balloon that's about to burst. And then I remember to relax, and stop trying to hold onto it, and then it flows through me like rain and I can't feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life. You have no idea what I'm talking about, I"m sure. But don't worry. You will someday."
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